A few days ago I had a friend ask me a question about myself and a guy I've been hanging out with. The question was, "are you guys official yet?" And just a few moments ago another friend asked me "are you officially dating * yet?" I've got to say I definitely wasn't expecting the inquiry from either and I actually don't really know how to answer these questions.
What do they mean? What does official mean in this context? Do you have to acquire the title of boyfriend/girlfriend to be official? Or does it count if you establish that you are exclusively seeing each other? This has nothing to do with me. I don't have any questions about my particular situation merely because I don't want to discuss it on my blog. I just figure that people have different ideas about what official means to them. I'm sure if you have some type of goal in mind for your relationship, or your situation, then when you do get what you want is when you consider yourself official. I don't really remember using this word very much in the past. Not for myself anyway. I think to me the question has to be "are you officially dating?" or "are you officially together?" because that makes it more specific. Even though, the concept of "dating" is lost on me sometimes.
Would anyone like to enlighten me on the definition or proper usage of "official"?
The only context that matters is YOURS, stupid.
ReplyDeleteDo you claim ownership of him? Do you think "my man", "my boyfriend"? When you introduce him to people, what the fuck do you introduce him as?
Honestly, we both know that you care too much for this not to be the case. What really matters is you admitting it to yourself now. Cuz that vulnerable, not entirely in control of the situation/your emotions is an important step.
No no, see you're turning this post into something about me. That is not the direction I was going with this.
ReplyDeleteOk. The only context that matters is the context of the person asking themselves whether they are in a relationship or not.
ReplyDeleteBETTER?