Let Me Be

For some time now I have been trying to get rid of my emotional baggage. Tie up any loose ends, as they say. And I have found that it is not the easiest thing to do. There are certain people that make it really difficult and I believe that the problem is the "what-if's." That emotional baggage is being weighed down by all the "what-if's" of our past ghosts.

I should probably give myself some time to put my thoughts together right now but I know that I won't let this out if I do. Something happened to me moments ago that showed me the importance of closure. Let me make it clear that I am the type to stay friends with guys I have dated. I honestly feel that if both of you understand why your relationship didn't work and if those amorous feelings are no longer there, you can be amicable with each other. But if you have had a lot of back and forth with someone, if there were a lot of strong feelings and things didn't end smoothly..a friendship is not possible. Maybe years down the line - like 20 - it could be possible, but you both have to have no feelings about what happened.

My real point here is, don't be afraid to let someone go. Especially if you are dating someone new, don't try and be friends with the person you just recently "tried to make it work" with. It does nothing for you. It does nothing for that person. You could have had great chemistry but it doesn't mean you should remain in each other's lives.

I don't have time in my life for wasted emotions. No need in thinking about what could have been with someone. No desire to befriend that person when I know there could be moments when I think of our past. If there is no reason to be in each other's lives then we shouldn't be. We've both moved on and are happy in our respective lives. So let's accept that we didn't work out, and that we can't and shouldn't be friends and keep going on.

I apologize if this sounds like I'm ranting but I hope that some of you will read this and realize that you may also have some toxic or unhealthy relationships in your life that you can do without. If the opportunity presents itself to close that chapter, do so.