There is one area in my life that I never feel quite confident about. Even if things are seemingly going well for a while, I'm always on the lookout for something to go wrong. And of course, I'm talking about love.
My "love life" hasn't been great in years. And if it's been good, it hasn't been good for long. Why is that? I'm not really sure. I don't know if it's a certain guy that I attract - maybe I like them jaded, or commitment-phobic - or if I am just unlucky, but I can't seem to get a hold on anyone. My male friends recognize me to be girlfriend material, but the guys I like or crush on don't. Is it because I'm a bit of a commitment-phobe myself? Can you guys smell that on me or see it in my eyes? And because of that, does it seem that I would be okay just hanging around never getting into any commitment? Okay, there have been guys who did see me as girlfriend material but the excuse was that they were never really "ready" for a relationship (even though we were doing everything a typical relationship implies, just without the title).
I probably sound like I'm pretty bitter about this and I guess lately I have been sort of feeling that way. Every time I'm not quite sure what's going on I start to reflect on all the past bullshit, thinking that it could cushion the blow I expect to get soon. I know the negativity doesn't help anything, I'm mostly just getting it out of my system. And maybe I'm just being dramatic and over-analyzing things, but I guess we'll see.
Tuesday, June 7
Monday, June 6
Five Ways To Win My Heart
I assume if someone is trying to win my heart that they actually care about me and want to be more than friends with me..so I won't count that as a way to win my heart. That probably sounds a little weird but you can't win my heart if you're into just games or "the chase." So here is my short and sweet list:
1. Be honest: I pride myself on being truthful and cannot tolerate liars. Lying to me is an insult.
2. Show me you're thinking about me: I would love to receive a rose from you just because, or even my favorite candy. A good morning/good night text also works. Just show me I've been on your mind.
3. Communicate: I cannot date you if we cannot hold a conversation. I'm not very talkative but if everything you say sounds stupid or we can't find anything to say to each other, we're not gonna work.
4. Be a little romantic: I'm not saying I need a candlelit dinner (although that could be nice) or a poem written by you, it's the little things that count. Hold my hand when we're together. Give me a random kiss on the cheek, neck, hand. Remind me that you find me beautiful/pretty etc. Hold me tight when you kiss me.
5. Make me laugh: Last but not least. What girl doesn't like to laugh? If you can entertain me I will always be looking forward to the next time I get to see you.
1. Be honest: I pride myself on being truthful and cannot tolerate liars. Lying to me is an insult.
2. Show me you're thinking about me: I would love to receive a rose from you just because, or even my favorite candy. A good morning/good night text also works. Just show me I've been on your mind.
3. Communicate: I cannot date you if we cannot hold a conversation. I'm not very talkative but if everything you say sounds stupid or we can't find anything to say to each other, we're not gonna work.
4. Be a little romantic: I'm not saying I need a candlelit dinner (although that could be nice) or a poem written by you, it's the little things that count. Hold my hand when we're together. Give me a random kiss on the cheek, neck, hand. Remind me that you find me beautiful/pretty etc. Hold me tight when you kiss me.
5. Make me laugh: Last but not least. What girl doesn't like to laugh? If you can entertain me I will always be looking forward to the next time I get to see you.
30 Day Challenge
I gave up on my Project 365 posts for Tumblr but this challenge seems a lot easier to stick to. I don't plan on doing this consecutively because I've been pretty busy lately and I'm sure this will continue for some more time (it's partly the reason I gave up on 365) but I'll do my best to be consistent. Got this from Raaachem's blog btw, one of my daily blog reads.
Wednesday, May 11
Mind Reader
"Granted, I know many men AND women who “seize the day,” but when it comes to relationships? Like my girl said, “Most men only think about the next 30 minutes.” AT THAT. This isn’t to say women shake a guys hand and immediately think of what color curtains to put in their child’s nursery, it’s just that once a woman like me catches feelings, we start to think about the bigger picture. Not about love, marriage, or a baby-carriage – more about getting hurt.
Because it’s all fun and games, and taking things day by day until five months down the line you find yourself making two different batches of spaghetti (‘cuz who the hell else eats whole-grain noodles asides from you?) and realize you’ve fallen in love with this man who still tells other people the two of you are just “going with the flow.”"
I think this is the second time I quote Abi from the "Girls Are The New Boys" blog, but I swear she's just too ON POINT sometimes. Click on the link below to read her entire post.
Carpe Dayum
Because it’s all fun and games, and taking things day by day until five months down the line you find yourself making two different batches of spaghetti (‘cuz who the hell else eats whole-grain noodles asides from you?) and realize you’ve fallen in love with this man who still tells other people the two of you are just “going with the flow.”"
I think this is the second time I quote Abi from the "Girls Are The New Boys" blog, but I swear she's just too ON POINT sometimes. Click on the link below to read her entire post.
Carpe Dayum
Tuesday, May 3
Facebook the Home-Wrecker
We all know those couples that have broken up because of Facebook (or MySpace, or Migente if you wanna take it real back). We all end up being witnesses as the break-up unfolds before our computer screens and can't help watching because let's face it, it's funny. Then there are those couples who delete their profiles because Facebook "only gets people in trouble." Smh, yea sure.
I honestly don't believe the internet can ruin any relationship. And using Facebook as an excuse is just LAME. Facebook didn't force you to post up a half naked picture, or force all your groupies to leave comments. Also, no one said it was mandatory for you to discuss your relationship so that the minute it seems something is going wrong you got the "next" waiting to console you. See the point I'm getting at here?
People get into arguments over their online life because they're dumb. Why would you post something up without thinking about how it would affect the person you're with? Why do you need people commenting on every new picture about how hot and sexy you look? That is the reason why some of you are constantly updating your pictures isn't it? We are a vain society and require others to remind us that we are still interesting and attractive. I assume that's also why a lot of people update their status every 30 minutes. They want to seem relevant.
If everyone learns to control their need for attention there would be no deleting of profiles for couples. Learn to respect each other and be understanding of each other's needs. If I have a boyfriend there is no way I'm gonna post up suggestive pictures or for that matter post up new pictures every two days. For you men, that means stop taking shirtless pictures flexing your muscles. I mean if you go to the beach then of course you'll want to share pictures..but ladies, not the one of you sticking your butt at the camera. Be mindful especially of the things you say. Don't put your business out there, Facebook is not a gossip magazine and you are not a celebrity. Your friends aren't interested in every detail of your love life. And if your significant other tells you they are uncomfortable by something you posted, figure out why that is and delete it if it's a problem. Communication is the key people.
I honestly don't believe the internet can ruin any relationship. And using Facebook as an excuse is just LAME. Facebook didn't force you to post up a half naked picture, or force all your groupies to leave comments. Also, no one said it was mandatory for you to discuss your relationship so that the minute it seems something is going wrong you got the "next" waiting to console you. See the point I'm getting at here?
People get into arguments over their online life because they're dumb. Why would you post something up without thinking about how it would affect the person you're with? Why do you need people commenting on every new picture about how hot and sexy you look? That is the reason why some of you are constantly updating your pictures isn't it? We are a vain society and require others to remind us that we are still interesting and attractive. I assume that's also why a lot of people update their status every 30 minutes. They want to seem relevant.
If everyone learns to control their need for attention there would be no deleting of profiles for couples. Learn to respect each other and be understanding of each other's needs. If I have a boyfriend there is no way I'm gonna post up suggestive pictures or for that matter post up new pictures every two days. For you men, that means stop taking shirtless pictures flexing your muscles. I mean if you go to the beach then of course you'll want to share pictures..but ladies, not the one of you sticking your butt at the camera. Be mindful especially of the things you say. Don't put your business out there, Facebook is not a gossip magazine and you are not a celebrity. Your friends aren't interested in every detail of your love life. And if your significant other tells you they are uncomfortable by something you posted, figure out why that is and delete it if it's a problem. Communication is the key people.
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