Just A Rant

I have a problem with women who get pregnant to trap a man. Or should I say to try and "trap" him. It's a really distorted way of thinking. That just because you get pregnant he's going to fall in love with you, or want to marry you or something. Well I've never seen either of those things. What I have seen is him complain about having to do more hours at work or maybe take a second job. What I've seen is him call her crazy and a bitch.

Eventually what happens is they both resent each other. Yes, they got a great gift out of what they once shared but now she looks at him with anger because he didn't want to be a family and he's looking at her thinking she's the enemy because he wasn't ready to be a daddy and stop being a bachelor. In the rare occasion that these people end up getting married or moving in together, it's usually to save face. He doesn't want to seem like a bad person so he gives the situation a try only to end up sleeping on the couch most nights. And she just keeps playing along like she's happy and like things are a-okay because at that point she wishes she would have never been involved with him.

Maybe im not much of an authority on this topic but I have known these guys. I haven't really known any of these women but if anyone is reading this and taking offense, just know it wasn't my intention but you may need to take another look at yourself. It just pains me when people do things without fully thinking. I mean we all do something stupid or silly when we love someone at some point but for something that will be life-altering, the pros and cons really need to be weighed out. Especially when it's going to affect more than just you. And remember what they say about assumptions...

Just A Thought

Whenever I am surprised to find out someone my age has a kid or is pregant I start to question if I should really be surprised. I mean I'm not a teenager anymore. Back in my parents day everyone was married with kids by 23-24. So why is it a shock? Maybe it's because I know it's not easy to have children so young. Especially as a woman with dreams. I have never wanted to get married and have children. And of course whenever I would say that people would tell me it's because I was young and as I got older I would want all of that. Well they were right. But I don't want it yet. I feel like I am too young to have a family. That's not saying anything about the people who do. I just want to still do a lot of things that I could not do if I had a child. And I'm not totally sold on the idea of getting married. I like weddings, I would love to attend some. I think it's beautiful the love two people can have for each other. But I have also seen how that love and bliss turns into hate and remorse. Even among those that aren't married and just have kids. Maybe even more so. I guess what surprises me is that these people are brave enough to have a child. It changes your life. Hopefully for the better, but it is a big deal either way. All I know is I am terrified, and so not ready.

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Taking It Slow Is Good

I don't really understand what it is about you that makes me nervous. After so many years of knowing each other, I should be able to feel comfortable. But I think you've always had this effect on me. At least at first when we're getting to know each other again. It's not a bad kind of nervous..as a matter of fact my girl thinks it's cute you make me feel this way. And when I heard I was going to see you the other day I almost felt giddy. It definitely made my day.
It's just that this time feels a little different between us. I think maybe in our time apart we matured a little more. And I don't have any expectations on what we have going on. I know we have both been disappointed in the past. But I am glad that we've crossed each other's paths again. I kind of hope this won't be as quick of a visit as it has been before. And if you happen to read this..I just hope you know this is for you.

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Let's Get Physical

I've never thought of myself as someone who has a "type" of guy I am into. Whenever anyone has asked me what I like in a guy whether physical or personality-wise I always give pretty stock answers: honest, funny, strong arms, my height or taller. Pretty basic answers that are common. But the thing is, I just don't discriminate. I have dated guys who looked very different from one another, guys who are of different heights, and backgrounds. But I am starting to notice I do have a type of guy I am mostly attracted to. And I do mean more so physically. So who do I find sexy all around? Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson.
Okay, so maybe not as built as The Rock is but I definitely like that olive skin tone, dark eyes, low haircut and nice body look. Dark eyes is actually a feature I've always liked on guys. I myself have Light Brown eyes and while I like them on myself I'm just not attracted to guys with Light Brown, Green or Blue eyes. Must be something about staring into those dark mysterious eyes. Hair wise, I did date a guy with long hair before but a nice low Caesar or even a baldy works for me. Even though I was into the spiky look when I was younger. As for height, contrary to many other females I know, I don't like guys who are taller than 6'0". I have dated guys who are my height and while that isn't my preference I didn't really mind since I have been the flats/sneakers type usually and well it's just not extremely comfortable to kiss a guy who is so much taller. In this department my preference is around 5'9"-5'10". Since I am about 5'6" this is a comfortable height whether I am in flats or in heels. When it comes to a nice body, I really look forward to muscular arms. They just feel nice to be in. Safe and warm. And as I am getting older I do appreciate a fit body. I don't do a whole lot to keep myself in shape but the day I have to I will, and I gotta have someone who looks like they should be with me. That sounds a little vain but when it comes to physical preferences it just makes sense that I would be. And I do look for more than just physical qualities but that's another post for another day.
Oddly enough, I remembered I was gonna write this post about my preference while I was watching "Kourtney and Kim Take New York" last night. It was really when Kim was hanging out with Michael Copon. He is just, very cute.

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