So I realize this post may be similar to one I wrote about a month ago "Official Girl" but let's get into it anyway..
After some time of hanging out with someone/dating someone, however you want to put it, comes the question of "what are we?" Of course for some this topic comes up because they really want to establish some kind of "title" ::cringe:: for their relationship to each other. For some of us, it's to simplify our lives. You ever had someone ask you what you did this past weekend and let's just say you had plans with your special someone, you sit there just not knowing how to refer to them? I just think it takes longer to say and it may invite nosy people to ask questions if you say "oh, with this guy I've been seeing." And frankly it gets tiring to say after a while. Why isn't there just a simple word that means "the person I've been dating/hanging out with/seeing"? Sure I could just say "my friend" but sometimes you want people to know that it's more than a friend. And you may not want to start using phrases like "my boo" if you ain't even calling each other that.
Now, let me be extra clear on something. I am in no way looking for a title for myself or my special friend and our whatever-it-is LOL. Titles of any kind imply certain behaviors that people sometimes feel pressure to act on. I hate to think that things are ever "supposed" to be a certain way. Things are however you want them to be regardless of what you call each other. I know what I have and what I feel and that's it for me. And what will use when I refer to this person? Well I guess it depends who's asking and what I feel like saying.
To be honest, for me, it is usually to decipher wether a girl was hanging out with a guy or not...Why? Well, girls usually talk in a certain way. For example, most women will refer to their true female friends as "homegirl", "girlfriend", "b****" or "bestie". Usually a close guy friend will be called "homeboy", "guys" etc. When a women is refering to a guy that she does not have a title for but is obviously involved with, she usually uses the exact word "friend". This doesn't isloate him, but yet it singles the person out. Why? because they were not put into any other category and as mentioned above, most women will categorize the people they hang out with. But to answer your question, I feel putting a tile on someone does complicate things...It's best to just keep using the word friend or somply say "the guy Im talking too"...That way, you imply you are more than friends but no neccassarily "dating" or "intimate" even though you could be with that person.
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